In our last blog we discussed how individuals with a specific Prakruti (body-mind constitution) interact in their relationships with others in general, and in this blog we will discuss in a little more detail and more specifically, how individuals with a “Vata Prakruti” (body-mind constitution) interact with all the three types of individuals, i.e. how a Vata individual interacts with another Vata individual, with a Pitta person and with a Kapha individual.
First we will discuss the Vata (air) predominant individuals – how they interact with a Vata spouse/partner, Pitta spouse/partner and Kapha spouse/partner.
- Vata individuals with Vata spouse/partner:
In this combination, both the partners can enjoy their intimate relationship with each other by being sensitive towards each other’s feelings, needs and expectations, mainly at the EMOTIONAL LEVEL. But due to the fluctuating effect caused by Vata at the physical and emotional levels, there is a risk of misunderstanding between them. In such a situation, there is a strong possibility of a widening gap between them, which can not only affect the physical intimacy between them, but also their interaction with each other on other personal and social matters. The solution is for them to consume Vata pacifying foods, as well as Kapha (water + earth) & Pitta (fire) enhancing food. By doing so, when Vata is pacified in their system, they won’t speculate unnecessarily what the other partner needs/wants/expects. By strengthening the Kapha dosha through the consumption of sweet potatoes, beet roots, etc., they will feel more grounded and the physical and mental agitation can be prevented/stopped. Hence they can discuss matters calmly instead of being impulsive and hasty. When Pitta dosha is enhanced by consuming black pepper, cinnamon, ginger, etc., it will bring more clarity in their minds, hence they will understand each other better.
2. Vata individuals with Pitta spouse/partner:
Vata individuals can gain confidence and firmness (which they lack generally) from their Pitta partners, while Pitta partners can learn to be more forthcoming and friendly, and more easy going while interacting with their Vata partners and with other members of society in general, instead of always being too careful. Vata individuals can learn to talk less and speak more meaningful topics instead of being too talkative, due to being influenced by a strong Vata dosha. On the other hand, Pitta individuals can learn to be more sensitive while expressing their views and not just focus on being right all the time, thus giving rise to insensitive behaviour.
With regard to the intimate sexual relationship between Vata and Pitta individuals, Vata individuals need to enhance their stamina by consuming more Kapha & Pitta oriented food, i.e. food items with substantial pulp (squash, bananas, papaya, etc.) to cope with the high expectations of Pitta partners. And Pitta individuals should try to be more understanding about the constitutional limitations of their Vata partners by consuming more Vata oriented food, eg. nuts, lentils, bitter gourd, etc.
3. Vata individuals with Kapha spouse/partners:
Vata individuals can benefit from having a spouse/partner who has Kapha as the predominant dosha. Kapha individuals can help Vata partners to slow down and calm down instead of being too hyper. Whereas Vata individuals can teach their Kapha partners to be more proactive and expressive. Slow and sluggish attitude of Kapha individuals can make their Vata partners more irritable and frustrated, while on the other hand, the very warm and overly friendly interaction of Vata individuals with others may cause an insecure feeling in the hearts of Kapha spouses/partners.
With regard to the intimate sexual relationship, Vata individuals get excited very easily, while Kapha individuals need quite a bit of time to be aroused. In such a situation, there is a risk of dissatisfaction by Kapha individuals, because when they just feel aroused, their Vata partner is already done. If this is not addressed and corrected, there is a high risk of increasing a rift between both of them.
The Ayurvedic solution is: Food wise, Vata individuals should consume more food items which have sweet taste, i.e. raw honey, jaggery, rock sugar, sweet fruits, root vegetables, etc. This will help to improve the consistency of their vital fluid, which in turn can help them to feel more grounded and not feel too excited, and hence to gain more control on themselves during the intimate moments with their Kapha oriented partner. This can also help them to have proper foreplay with their Kapha partner, which can help their partner to get aroused first before the actual act of physical union.
Similarly, Kapha individuals need to consume food items which can help them to feel excited and aroused quickly to help their Vata oriented partner. If they consume more nuts, lentils, beans, spices like cumin seeds, carrom seeds, cloves, etc. then their Pitta can become strong, which can increase passion in their hearts. Vata can become more regulated, which can help Kapha individuals to be more expressive and responsive to their Vata partners’ actions. This can help Kapha individuals to feel more satisfied and content in the intimate relationship with their Vata partners. In our next blog, we will discuss how Pitta individuals interact with their Pitta, Vata or Kapha oriented spouses/partners and what each partner should do to enhance intimacy between them to be able to live happily together.
DISCLAIMER: This information is intended for educational purposes only & does not constitute expert medical advice, nor is it meant to replace medical recommendations by a medical practitioner. Always consult a qualified Ayurveda Doctor/Health Professional/Yoga Guru for your specific medical needs before taking any herbal health supplements, and/or practicing Ayurveda & Yoga.